How To Apologize And Extinguish The flames Of Conflict In Your Home.

HOW TO APOLOGIZE AND EXTINGUISH THE FLAMES OF CONFLICT IN YOUR  HOME.

 You and your spouse have just had an argument. I do not need to apologize, you tell yourself. I am not the one who started it. You drop the issue, but the tension lingers. You reconsider apologizing, but you cannot bring yourself to say those simple words, "I'm sorry".
Keep your pride and save your family. sometimes it is hard to say I am sorry because my ego gets in the way" admits a husband named Peter. Inordinate pride can make you too embarrassed to acknowledge  your share of the blame.

You may think that an apology is in order only if you are responsible for the problem. A wife named Mary says, "When I know I am hundred percent at fault, it is easy to say I am sorry. But when we both said things we regret, it is difficult. I mean , why should I apologize if both of us messed up?
You might feel even more justified if you feel that what happened was entirely your spouse's fault. "When you genuinely believe that you haven't done anything wrong says a husband called Samuel,"Withholding an apology becomes a way of declaring  your innocence".
To keep your home happy, try to practice the following:

1. True, apologizing may be difficult if you are not fully to blame. But your spouse faults do not excuse bad behavior on your part. so do not hesitate to apologize, thinking that the passing of time will cover over the offense. Your apologizing can make it easier for your spouse to apologize too. and the more you practice apologizing, the easier it will become for you.

2. Remember your marriage. View an apology, not as a defeat for you, but as a victory for your marriage. After all, a person who remains offended is " more unyielding than a fortified city, "says Proverbs 18:19. It is difficult, if not impossible, to restore peace in such a defensive atmosphere. On the other hand , when you apologize you prevent the offense from becoming a barrier. In essence, you put your marriage ahead of yourself.

                                                 MARRIAGE QUOTE.
"An apology can transform your marriage from one where problems linger and create tension to one where problems are small bumps in the road. Apologies give you the chance to prove your love for each other".
Happy Married Life.