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Friday, November 3, 2017
Quick Reference Bible Verses About Marriage.
Quick Reference Bible Verses About Marriage
1 Corinthians 7:1-40 - The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife....
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Ephesians 5:21-23 - Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church-- for we are members of his body.“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Proverbs 18:22 - He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.
Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Genesis 2:22-24 - Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Proverbs 21:9 - Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Matthew 19:2-9 - Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
Proverbs 19:14 - Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Monday, November 2, 2015
Marriage Tips.
MARRIAGE TIPS.
After dating for nearly three years and knowing we were on the path to marriage, I asked my boyfriend directly when he imagined us becoming engaged. We had a couple of discussions where I laid out my expectations and he his before reaching an approximate window of when we both thought we’d be ready. I later told a friend about these discussions, and she responded, “I would never bring that up! You should just wait for him to propose when he’s ready.”
What? No, thank you. This huge next step was 50 percent about me, and I had the right to know where my (and our) life was headed. From that exchange, I’ve determined six things you shouldn't do if you're ready for marriage.
You shouldn't...
1. ...avoid the conversation
In a relationship, the choice to date each other is mutual. The act of marriage is a team endeavor. Marriage counselors, therapists and ministers suggest discussing every possible expectation for life as a married couple before marriage. So doesn’t it make sense that engagement—and the discussion of a future—should also be joint process? I’m not saying you and your partner should mutually propose to each other or plan out the exact date, time and location you’re going to become engaged (a little mystery and excitement can make the moment even more special), but engagement should not be taboo subject.
Through an honest discussion, you’ll find out if you’re on the same page. Is marriage important to both of you? Will it add something to the relationship or are you both content continuing to be together as you are? Are you still in love with each other or merely comfortable? Do you want to be married (as in, you’d elope if you had to) or just plan a fun wedding? With America's divorce rate as high as it is, marriage should never be entered into with a shrug or blind faith. Discussing engagement opens up the window to many important questions about your future together, and may even reveal that you don’t have a future together at all.
3.try to be the “cool girlfriend”
In an effort to prove they are not “that girl”—the demanding girlfriend who requests a proposal on her timeline—too many women don’t say a word about wanting to be engaged, bottling up their confusion, anticipation and frustration. If you are expecting or desiring a proposal, closing your eyes and hoping it will happen won’t get you anywhere.
Pretending you don’t care is a dead end, too. There are plenty of women who truly don’t feel the need to get married and are totally fine with long-term dating. If that is you, great! But if it’s not, no amount of forcing will change how you feel. There is nothing wrong about wanting to commit to a lifetime with someone, so for heaven’s sake, don’t feel guilty. Listen to yourself and acknowledge your needs.
3. ...drop hints
I get why women (myself included) drop hints—it’s so easy! You can put feelers out there, gauge a reaction and if you come under suspicion for your hinting ways, there’s no damning evidence because you didn’t actually say anything. So sneaky.
But while it’s easier to hint, this approach very rarely accomplishes anything. Women shouldn’t need to resort to petty games in place of having a grown-up discussion. When you’re unhappy about something down the road, are you going to drop hints to your husband in hopes that he picks up on them? Your partner can’t read your mind—say something. Any person who is serious about a future won’t freak out at the mere mention of marriage. If he or she is not respectful of and responsive to your efforts to have an honest discussion, maybe you have your answer right there.
4. ...make the discussion about a ring
Avoid bringing up engagement in the context of a ring. If a diamond (or sapphire or emerald) ring is important to you, that’s fine. Say it once and then back off. The more you bring up the rock, the less the issue is about the actual engagement and marriage. Also, rings aren’t cheap. Just as you cannot make money appear out of thin air, neither can they.
If you’re secretly expecting your significant other to plan out an elaborate proposal, consider that this might take a bit of time, too. Proposing is already a big deal; planning a special one takes it up another notch.
In either case, you’re absolutely required to be more patient. If waiting bugs you that much, it’s time to adjust your expectations.
5. ...talk about how everyone else is doing it
Similar to #4, you should avoid making your engagement about anything other than the two of you. It is insanely hard not to compare yourself to others, especially in the age of invasive social media. First you see your friends traveling the world, then in a happy relationship, then engaged, then married. Then they buy a house and have a child, and it all looks so fun and perfect. You feel like you're falling behind, and it's rough. Ugh.
The simple truth is, though, that there is no right time to get married. Just because your friends are getting married at 27 doesn't mean you should be getting married at 27. Using this as an argument for getting engaged comes off like you're trying to win a competition, not grow your relationship.
Reflect on whether you not only truly want this, but are also ready for this. You can be in love with your significant other and still need some time. Take a deep breath, block out the noise and focus on the two of you.
6. ...beat a dead horse
There should be an element of trust and respect that your partner hears you. I will admit that I didn’t do very well in this area when I was ready for engagement. I brought up the topic one too many times after our initial discussions. Letting my curiosity/anxiety manifest into a game of 20 questions only made my boyfriend, and me, feel worse. Feeling a lack of control is frustrating, but having a discussion (see #1) is your form of control. Say what you feel directly, clearly and honestly. State your intentions and expectations. Listen to theirs, as well. And then let it go.
ALWAYS PUT YOUR SITUATIONS IN GOD CARES.
Pray With Prayer Points.
After dating for nearly three years and knowing we were on the path to marriage, I asked my boyfriend directly when he imagined us becoming engaged. We had a couple of discussions where I laid out my expectations and he his before reaching an approximate window of when we both thought we’d be ready. I later told a friend about these discussions, and she responded, “I would never bring that up! You should just wait for him to propose when he’s ready.”
What? No, thank you. This huge next step was 50 percent about me, and I had the right to know where my (and our) life was headed. From that exchange, I’ve determined six things you shouldn't do if you're ready for marriage.
You shouldn't...
1. ...avoid the conversation
In a relationship, the choice to date each other is mutual. The act of marriage is a team endeavor. Marriage counselors, therapists and ministers suggest discussing every possible expectation for life as a married couple before marriage. So doesn’t it make sense that engagement—and the discussion of a future—should also be joint process? I’m not saying you and your partner should mutually propose to each other or plan out the exact date, time and location you’re going to become engaged (a little mystery and excitement can make the moment even more special), but engagement should not be taboo subject.
Through an honest discussion, you’ll find out if you’re on the same page. Is marriage important to both of you? Will it add something to the relationship or are you both content continuing to be together as you are? Are you still in love with each other or merely comfortable? Do you want to be married (as in, you’d elope if you had to) or just plan a fun wedding? With America's divorce rate as high as it is, marriage should never be entered into with a shrug or blind faith. Discussing engagement opens up the window to many important questions about your future together, and may even reveal that you don’t have a future together at all.
3.try to be the “cool girlfriend”
In an effort to prove they are not “that girl”—the demanding girlfriend who requests a proposal on her timeline—too many women don’t say a word about wanting to be engaged, bottling up their confusion, anticipation and frustration. If you are expecting or desiring a proposal, closing your eyes and hoping it will happen won’t get you anywhere.
Pretending you don’t care is a dead end, too. There are plenty of women who truly don’t feel the need to get married and are totally fine with long-term dating. If that is you, great! But if it’s not, no amount of forcing will change how you feel. There is nothing wrong about wanting to commit to a lifetime with someone, so for heaven’s sake, don’t feel guilty. Listen to yourself and acknowledge your needs.
3. ...drop hints
I get why women (myself included) drop hints—it’s so easy! You can put feelers out there, gauge a reaction and if you come under suspicion for your hinting ways, there’s no damning evidence because you didn’t actually say anything. So sneaky.
But while it’s easier to hint, this approach very rarely accomplishes anything. Women shouldn’t need to resort to petty games in place of having a grown-up discussion. When you’re unhappy about something down the road, are you going to drop hints to your husband in hopes that he picks up on them? Your partner can’t read your mind—say something. Any person who is serious about a future won’t freak out at the mere mention of marriage. If he or she is not respectful of and responsive to your efforts to have an honest discussion, maybe you have your answer right there.
4. ...make the discussion about a ring
Avoid bringing up engagement in the context of a ring. If a diamond (or sapphire or emerald) ring is important to you, that’s fine. Say it once and then back off. The more you bring up the rock, the less the issue is about the actual engagement and marriage. Also, rings aren’t cheap. Just as you cannot make money appear out of thin air, neither can they.
If you’re secretly expecting your significant other to plan out an elaborate proposal, consider that this might take a bit of time, too. Proposing is already a big deal; planning a special one takes it up another notch.
In either case, you’re absolutely required to be more patient. If waiting bugs you that much, it’s time to adjust your expectations.
5. ...talk about how everyone else is doing it
Similar to #4, you should avoid making your engagement about anything other than the two of you. It is insanely hard not to compare yourself to others, especially in the age of invasive social media. First you see your friends traveling the world, then in a happy relationship, then engaged, then married. Then they buy a house and have a child, and it all looks so fun and perfect. You feel like you're falling behind, and it's rough. Ugh.
The simple truth is, though, that there is no right time to get married. Just because your friends are getting married at 27 doesn't mean you should be getting married at 27. Using this as an argument for getting engaged comes off like you're trying to win a competition, not grow your relationship.
Reflect on whether you not only truly want this, but are also ready for this. You can be in love with your significant other and still need some time. Take a deep breath, block out the noise and focus on the two of you.
6. ...beat a dead horse
There should be an element of trust and respect that your partner hears you. I will admit that I didn’t do very well in this area when I was ready for engagement. I brought up the topic one too many times after our initial discussions. Letting my curiosity/anxiety manifest into a game of 20 questions only made my boyfriend, and me, feel worse. Feeling a lack of control is frustrating, but having a discussion (see #1) is your form of control. Say what you feel directly, clearly and honestly. State your intentions and expectations. Listen to theirs, as well. And then let it go.
ALWAYS PUT YOUR SITUATIONS IN GOD CARES.
Pray With Prayer Points.
Thursday, September 10, 2015
Counselling : How To Choose A Partner.
COUNSELLING : HOW TO CHOOSE A PARTNER.
There is a kind of joy the unmarried man or woman will never have until he gets married. Some burdens will never removed from the heart of man until he gets married. Some promotion, favor, progress, material things, academic positions and a level of spirituality will not be attained until you get married.
Many brother and sisters are delaying their blessings because of delay in marriage. He has instituted marriage so that the friction of life and problem of life will be removed. There is nothing anybody can do to disprove what God has instituted. God has made it so. some years ago, an unmarried employee will not be assigned to a very important position in the civil service.
HOW TO CHOOSE A PARTNER.
It is necessary to consult God with prayer and fasting for god's guidance and directive. Jesus prayed seriously before He chose the twelve apostles(Luke 6:12-13). this is an indication that a Christian must pray fervently before undertaking such life task. Abraham sent his servant to choose a wife for Isaac but the servant pray fervently and waited by the well where women used to fetch water. It indicates that patience is required in choosing a life partner(Genesis 24:11-14). It is better to be patient while looking for a partner.
You must refrain from foul game that leads many youths to fornication. This is by chosing many girls who will be competing with each other, for there are boys and girls who need future partners by all means. they are ready to give everything during courtship but after marriage everything will be withdrawn.
You must choose a woman or a man you love and know that you can cope or live with till the end of your life. It is wrong to choose blindly. Love is not blind, but the lust of the flesh is totally blind.
Choose rightly.
PRAYER FOR THE SINGLE AND MARRIED.
Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray that the problem that disgraced my parents in marriage, you will not prosper in my life in the name of Jesus.
http://www.myprayerpoints.blogspot.com
There is a kind of joy the unmarried man or woman will never have until he gets married. Some burdens will never removed from the heart of man until he gets married. Some promotion, favor, progress, material things, academic positions and a level of spirituality will not be attained until you get married.
Many brother and sisters are delaying their blessings because of delay in marriage. He has instituted marriage so that the friction of life and problem of life will be removed. There is nothing anybody can do to disprove what God has instituted. God has made it so. some years ago, an unmarried employee will not be assigned to a very important position in the civil service.
HOW TO CHOOSE A PARTNER.
It is necessary to consult God with prayer and fasting for god's guidance and directive. Jesus prayed seriously before He chose the twelve apostles(Luke 6:12-13). this is an indication that a Christian must pray fervently before undertaking such life task. Abraham sent his servant to choose a wife for Isaac but the servant pray fervently and waited by the well where women used to fetch water. It indicates that patience is required in choosing a life partner(Genesis 24:11-14). It is better to be patient while looking for a partner.
You must refrain from foul game that leads many youths to fornication. This is by chosing many girls who will be competing with each other, for there are boys and girls who need future partners by all means. they are ready to give everything during courtship but after marriage everything will be withdrawn.
You must choose a woman or a man you love and know that you can cope or live with till the end of your life. It is wrong to choose blindly. Love is not blind, but the lust of the flesh is totally blind.
Choose rightly.
PRAYER FOR THE SINGLE AND MARRIED.
Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray that the problem that disgraced my parents in marriage, you will not prosper in my life in the name of Jesus.
http://www.myprayerpoints.blogspot.com
3 Mistakes Women Make That Destroy Marriage.
3 MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE THAT DESTROY MARRIAGE.
Marriage is an institution and must be enjoyed. But some women marry as if they are ready for divorce. Everything about your home, love, children, finance and prayer life must be discussed with your spouse. Everything in the home is owned by "Us" and not "Me".
Two of you come from different backgrounds, training and upbringing. When and where there are differences, as a Christian, resolve it timely. Third parties may not be good except when necessary. Verbal wars, Insults, Quarrels, Abuse, Demeaning statements about your husband and children will lead to divorce. The home is where you have a family and not a "me" alone thing. Your home must be a team and that is why it is called a Family.
Proverbs 5:1 says, "A soft answer turned away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger".
Be at peace with all in your house, toe the path of peace and it will be well with your relationship and Marriage.
But, never go to sleep with a difference.
Prayer For The Single And Married.
Married: Father, in the name of Jesus, I commit my marriage unto your care. Let peace, love and harmony reigns in my home.
Single: I declare that by the blood of Jesus, I cleansed and set aside, chosen for Joyful and blessed relationships. Amen.
http://www.Facebook.com/pages/Marriage-And-Family/1627348594184420
Marriage is an institution and must be enjoyed. But some women marry as if they are ready for divorce. Everything about your home, love, children, finance and prayer life must be discussed with your spouse. Everything in the home is owned by "Us" and not "Me".
Two of you come from different backgrounds, training and upbringing. When and where there are differences, as a Christian, resolve it timely. Third parties may not be good except when necessary. Verbal wars, Insults, Quarrels, Abuse, Demeaning statements about your husband and children will lead to divorce. The home is where you have a family and not a "me" alone thing. Your home must be a team and that is why it is called a Family.
Proverbs 5:1 says, "A soft answer turned away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger".
Be at peace with all in your house, toe the path of peace and it will be well with your relationship and Marriage.
But, never go to sleep with a difference.
Prayer For The Single And Married.
Married: Father, in the name of Jesus, I commit my marriage unto your care. Let peace, love and harmony reigns in my home.
Single: I declare that by the blood of Jesus, I cleansed and set aside, chosen for Joyful and blessed relationships. Amen.
http://www.Facebook.com/pages/Marriage-And-Family/1627348594184420
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
Relationship Counselling : How To Save Your Marriage.
RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING : HOW TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.
Do you know that over 85% of marriage that collapse are "Marital situation That Lacks True Love". Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding , mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weakness. Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
The holy bible also tells us the important of true love in marriage. In ( 1 John 4:8 ), it says, "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. God's love is strong, faithful, true more than enough, everlasting and unconditional. For a Marriage to stands there must be unconditional love at home.
Love creates, love celebrates, love heals pains, love knows your deepest desire, love never ends and never tires. Love is precious, unconditional and merciful given.
And finally, love is the reason for living.
Prayer Talk.
Today, in the name of Jesus, your Marriage will receive:
1.Treasure without measure.
2.Pleasure without pressure.
3.Progress without protest.
4.Favor without labour in Jesus name. amen.
Do you know that over 85% of marriage that collapse are "Marital situation That Lacks True Love". Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding , mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weakness. Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
The holy bible also tells us the important of true love in marriage. In ( 1 John 4:8 ), it says, "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. God's love is strong, faithful, true more than enough, everlasting and unconditional. For a Marriage to stands there must be unconditional love at home.
Love creates, love celebrates, love heals pains, love knows your deepest desire, love never ends and never tires. Love is precious, unconditional and merciful given.
And finally, love is the reason for living.
Prayer Talk.
Today, in the name of Jesus, your Marriage will receive:
1.Treasure without measure.
2.Pleasure without pressure.
3.Progress without protest.
4.Favor without labour in Jesus name. amen.
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