How to make any man beg you for commitment (Terrific advice from a cat)
Here’s a fun (slightly evil) little experiment that you should definitely try out.
Sneak up on a cat, as quietly as you can, and try to pick it up.
I’m being completely serious here. Sneak up on that cat as quietly as a cat sneaks up on mice, and scoop it up like it’s a fumbled football.
You might call this crazy, and you’re not wrong if you do, but I prefer the word “educational”.
9 times out of 10, that cat’s going to take off like it’s on bath salts. You’ll probably also get a few claw scratch beauty marks for your trouble.
There are few things to take away from this experiment.
Number one, don’t ever do it again.
Number two, the cat ran away because cats hate any kind of sneakiness that isn’t their own sneakiness.
Number three, men aren’t cats, but you shouldn’t get sneaky with them either.
A lot of women try to get their man to commit like trying to snatch up a cat, and the rate of success is just about the same.
Oh by the way, I am not saying it's your fault. In most cases, it's never the woman's fault because she basically doesn't understand the weirdness of the male mind (more on this later).
Now, let’s try an experiment that actually isn’t impulsive.
Instead of stalking the cat, let’s try approaching from the front so that it knows we’re there. Cats, like men, are visual creatures. Cats prefer to see things coming.
By approaching from the front, we can actually get into its personal space without making the cat hate us.
After you accomplish the task of getting close to cat while it sees you, like a normal person, you can gently pet it and it might not hiss and take off like a bottle rocket.
Men are bigger than cats and not so great at slipping under the sofa at a moment’s notice, but it’s the principle here that counts.
At the first hint that a woman is trying to be sneaky with them, they’re going to make themselves scarce.
Lots of men today are already a little bit paranoid about potential hidden motives of their partners, and you definitely don’t want to give him a good reason to be on-guard. Spies aren’t known for having stable relationships, so save the sneakiness for the secret agents.
Now, here is the weird bit - You might not be sneaky whatsoever, but in the crazy world of men, what you think is completely innocent might be seen as EVIL if you were to look at the same from a male lens.
There’s just one thing that we need to remember above all else: men (and also cats, for the record) love their freedom.
To a man, being free and being alive are one and the same. The threat of losing his freedom is even scarier to a man than cliff diving, public speaking, earthquakes, and romantic comedy movie marathons combined.
To put it simply, if you want to lose a man as quickly as possible, grab onto him as tightly as possible. He’ll slip out of your grasp like an eel and put three oceans of distance between the two of you in one fluid motion.
To a man, the thought of getting locked down to the wrong woman is the same thing as death. It’s not that they’re afraid of the concept of getting locked down, though, but just that a relationship with the wrong woman feels no better to him than being in prison. Prison means no freedom, and no freedom means no life.
But there is one thing you can do right now that will make any man chase you to the point of madness and literally make a fool out of himself to win you over.
So what is this one thing you ask? I call it a "Mesmerizing Phrases".
Here is a personal video for you explaining how this work.
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Your Attention
I am so guilty of this. My wife says something and my body language acknowledges it, but it doesn’t sink in. Shame on me. Instead of burying myself in thought, the paper, or even the Bible, I need to look my wife straight in the eyes and give her my full attention. She might not want me to solve whatever she is talking about, but she does want me to listen. It is so disrespectful when someone says something to you and you don’t even acknowledge what they said by words or by nodding your head. Men, are you really listening to your wife? Could you repeat the last sentence she said? Drop whatever it is you had going on, including the remote if necessary, and stop, look, and listen. She deserves your attention, don’t you think?
Your Faithfulness
Surely, we husbands need to remain faithful to our wives. That is clearly commanded in Scripture. By remaining faithful to her, I mean not only avoiding adultery and pornography but avoiding commenting about other husband’s wives or looking at other women with lust. Men can so easily commit adultery of the heart. It’s like we’re hardwired that way, but we are supposed to be new creations in Christ, as Paul wrote, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come” (2 Cor. 5:17). When we are born again, we are given a new nature, as Ezekiel wrote, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you” (Ezek. 36:26a), and as such, we were “buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life
Conclusion
Conclusion
Obviously, there are a lot more than three things a wife needs that are not listed here, but surely we recognize that we need to love our wives as Christ loved the church. That means a life-sacrificing life of serving her. We need to give her our full attention when she is talking, and we need to be ever faithful to our bride, for she is a gift of God. We should treat her as such.